Opening Via Blockage
Speaking of Chris Gailus, did you see THIS?? It’s a June 10th CBC article that says Mr. Gailus is the subject of a sexual harassment complaint! Wow!!
I read the article with mixed emotions. At first I was shocked by the headline – sexual harassment?? With the first and second paragraph, we are told that a former makeup artist filed a complaint after he repeatedly made her uncomfortable. He commented on her buttocks, pretended to get erections while she did his makeup, and one time he grabbed her butt.
While these actions would not even make ME blink, it’s hard to imagine how others would react to them. Just because I would’ve laughed it off and not given it a second thought, doesn’t mean that I can say that she overreacted. People have different levels of tolerance for certain things. For years I worked with a man who would leer at me from his office, hug me inappropriately, and generally creep me out. So I can see how a woman would be unnerved by such behaviours, especially if it was unwelcome attention!
Reading yet further, it comes to light that the incidents happened between 2006 and 2013. During that time, Chris was married and in the process of starting a family and adopting their son. Aside from the pressures of work and being a public figure, the personal pressures were probably stressful. Still, this is no excuse for behaving badly, and he should have stopped.
Which is apparently exactly what he did! When told that his flirting was unwelcome, he immediately apologized and stopped it. He even admitted that HER perception of the interactions were what mattered and his intentions were moot. Sometimes friends cross invisible lines that only one side can see, but once they are clearly defined, they are respected.
This story is still developing and maybe we’ll learn more as the paperwork moves through the system. Or maybe it’ll just “go away”. I think it’s safe to say that Mr. Gailus doesn’t want us talking about it either way.
It must suck so hard to be under such scrutiny – I go about my daily life, making mistakes, saying stupid things, being inappropriate, and even being a dick, but nobody notices or cares. If I got called on every action or word, I would lock myself in a dungeon and be afraid to come out! Thank GOD there wasn’t social media when I was in my 20s and 30s – I would be roasted for SO many things I said and did. Ooooohhh so many things!! For people like me though, others’ opinions don’t matter – what people think of me is none of my business. But news of douchiness spreads like wildfire these days, so those who care how they are perceived need to tread lightly.
Which brings me to my point: I didn’t know anything about this until a friend sent me the article today. It was a “HUH!” moment for me. If Mr. Gailus hadn’t blocked me, I likely never would’ve found out about it. Did he block me years ago when the JOS got in trouble for that “Fuck, Kill, or Marry?” bit they had with Chris and Squire? Or did he block me more recently for some other reason?
Whatever the case, it’s clear that he doesn’t want me to talk about him. But I can’t help it – he works in media (and sometimes on radio!) and therefore he’s in my orbit. On the outskirts, for sure, but still within my gravitational pull. So, sorry Chris! If it’s media news, I’m going to have to share it.
It’s a good thing he doesn’t read this blog… 😁