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Play Dates and Penises

Apr 13, 2017

We knew we’d be running into this sooner or later, and now that it’s happened: meh. A few weeks ago, a classmate of Ryder’s came over for a play date after school. They are now in grade 1, but this girl was not in Ryder’s kindergarten class. Since grade 1 is nearly over, it didn’t occur to me that she didn’t know Ryder was...

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ProNONs
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ProNONs

Aug 13, 2016

We’ve been in Finland for a month now. A month of anonymity. Except for a small handful of people, no one is aware of my child’s gender fluidity. Is that the correct term? Even I’m not sure… When we go to the store, they ask “What would you girls like?” and none of us bat an eye. No corrections are forthcoming. It doesn’t even...

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Rainbows and Dingalings
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When Ryder was three, his sister forbade him to wear her bathing suits. He was devastated. He loved the one pieces – one had Dora, another had princesses, another had flowers – and hated his “boy trunks”, even the ones with bright colours. The bright green one with colourful dinosaurs was ick. The white Hawaiian shorts with pretty flowers was about the only ones...

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Not my circus!
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Not my circus!

Mar 2, 2016

I recently saw someone comment on a Facebook post with “Not my monkey, not my circus!” and I immediately adopted that saying. It works for everything! “Those kids are so badly behaved.” – not my monkey, not my circus. *shrug* “That woman is such a nag.” – not my monkey, not my circus. *shrug* “Why don’t those parents let their kids be who they...

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Choice
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Choice

Feb 3, 2016

I *think* my 5 year old is transgendered. Wait. Let me stop you right there, before you launch into “How can you know? He’s only FIVE!” and “Shame on you for labelling him before he’s old enough to make that decision!” and, my favourite, “it’s just a phase.” Allow me to present the evidence, and you can come to your own conclusion: I always...

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Rainbows and Restrooms
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My 5 year old started kindergarden in September. Aside from the normal worries most parents have about their little ones – will they be hungry, will they soil themselves, will they get picked on, will the teacher be nice, will they make friends – I had an extra worry: will the restroom be safe? Maybe other parents worry about this too, or maybe they...

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